|Written by jswana|
Getting someone to ask you out after a first date certainly depends on how the first date went.¬† It's not always so clear though.¬† Some people can act simply crazy on a first date and get a call back and some people can do all the right things (assumingly) and still wait by the phone.¬† The secret of the first example probably lies in someone being highly attracted to the other and no matter what, would like to connect with them again.¬† Some men scrutinize women really deeply, some are analytical, some just don't know.¬† None of these are comfortable circumstances but from a woman's standpoint, women want just about the same things that men want, only in a different way. Certainty being the main objective.¬† And someone to rely on.¬† It's not up to us to call a man back so it seems sort of unfair.You can't ask the toxic question "Will you call me again?" either. That would be just too sad and a sure kill, but still you want to know.¬† Well, there should never be that much thought put into it once you know who you are.........
1.¬† Your Mindset:
Even if that Adonis that you have been dreaming about asks you out, don't think that it's too much that he has asked you out,¬† that¬† you have to do too much to impress him.¬† It's thrilling, it's nerve wrecking and exciting just anticipating the date.¬† All of this may be true but he is simply another human such as yourself. He is no better than you are and you are no better than himself.¬† You're both on even ground.¬† Thinking like this calms you to a point and erases so many fearful thoughts of doing the wrong thing and not putting so many expectations on him.
2.)¬† The Presentation:
If he's taking you to the movies and dinner, to a play and dinner, to a fancy restaurant, dress for the occasion.¬† Unless he says that it is a Black Tie affair, wear your lovely and appropriate outfit, get a new haircut, or a style at the beauty shop. You don't want to look provocative, but rather simply attractive.¬† Look in the mirror and¬† figure out the make up that enhances your features.¬† You want to look nice but not unlike yourself, just that really nice edition of yourself.
3.)¬† The Date:
Wherever you go, be confident in yourself while with him.¬† Make eye contact and listen and talk and talk and listen. No one likes people who talk excessively about themselves as if no one else matters.
4.)¬† Digging up old affairs:
It's not wise to talk about past hurts or expose who you¬† have dated even if it's part of a Professional Football Team.¬† Confessions about past romances seem to open up too many doors that were not there until¬† the topic was broached.¬† Don't bring it up and be non-comittal if he brings his up.¬† This is a budding relationship and should be confined to you and him.¬† There are so many ways to find out if you have some things in common which is most important.
5.) You Decide:
Although this date may be everything that you had been wishing for, can you look past everything and decide if you really like him and want to go out with him again or not? It's really your call.¬† If you decide that you do then act as if you do.¬† When he projects future events, be open to them.
Kissing on the first date is highly personal, is definitely something to either be for or against.¬† A romance can survive with or without it.¬† Kisses are intimate though, so whatever your rule is, you can hold off from that kiss instead of announcing that you are doing so.¬† You want to have this date end nicely and if you are calm, sure and honestly want to enjoy yourself without so much anticipation and jitters, it will show at the end of the date.
7.)¬† Making the next connection:
It's a known fact that when you really like someone you can hardly wait to see them again. This goes for men and women.¬† Sometimes we make the mistake of over analyzing why a gentleman has not called us back.¬† The first thing that you don't want to do is start analyzing it.¬† If he calls back within a day or a few days, fine.¬† If it takes longer don't start putting reasons behind it.¬† It's not as simple as 'he likes me so much he is afraid to see me again'.¬† Or, 'he doesn't like me and has someone else anyways and was probably just out to make her jealous'.¬† The fact is that men should have good reasons for not connecting back with you and a first date does not compel him to answer to you, although it would be nice.¬† Generally, however, it is never a question of him calling you back if he liked you enough to ask you out in the first place.¬† Peace.
*These guidelines are from personal observations.
*You should always present a positive mindset to a date!