|Written by Sharyl Stockstill|
It is sad when someone passes away, even if you did not like that person. In the case of an ex-spouse, things can get tricky when a eulogy needs to be written. It is hard to keep from being bitter, but you must for the sake of any children you had with the ex-spouse. ┬á
Step 1: Write about where the spouse was born, who his parents were. Highlight some of the places he lived and where he went to school. Keep to the facts and keep it simple. You can touch briefly upon where he worked, and what career field his was in.
┬áStep 2: List the name of his survivors, including his parents, grandparents, and his children from oldest to youngest surviving child. List any grandchildren and other descendents/survivors the same way.
Step 3: Mention who predeceased him in death. If his parents are gone, mention them by name. Try to think of the eulogy as a reference for future generations who are studying their family history.
┬áStep 4: Think past the bitterness and ill will. Was there a funny story about something he did? There was some reason, some part of his character that attracted you to him in the first place. You can also highlight any activities he enjoyed such as playing baseball or collecting coins. You want to give a small sense of what his good points were.
Step 5: When you are finished, set the eulogy aside for awhile. A day works the best, but a couple of hours will do if you have a time crunch. This will help it to cool, and you will be able to spot any rough spots that may need to be addressed. This little bit of time also provides you with an opportunity to think of some other possible things you might want to include.
┬áStep 6: Consider who should read the eulogy. If there was a brother or close friend, you might want to ask them to read the eulogy. It is tough to lose an ex-spouse and you will be emotional, whether you want to be or not.