How to Argue Safely

Arguing is part of many relationships and people come across arguments when not agreeing with others points of view. Arguing can interfere with friendships or have a negative impact on your relationships. Knowing how to argue will save you the grief of having to replace your loved ones every time you disagree with them without having to hold back what you want to say to them.

When arguing, be aware of your voice level. People tend to over react and start raising their voice when trying to make their point. This only makes the argument a hot tempered one, and people will react in an aggressive way to an aggressive tone of voice. Watch how you speak.

When arguing, make sure to speak clearly. Talk at a normal pace so people can understand you. You shouldn't rush your speech. This also comes off as aggressive behavior.

Look at the person's eyes.Don't allow yourself to let your eyes wander. This could be interpreted as intimidation or you not caring about the argument.The person you are having an argument with, should be looked at directly.

Stand or sit at eye level. Do not allow yourself to be at a lower or higher level than the one you arguing with. Again, it could become intimidating to be looking up at someone disagreeing with you.

Pay attention to your body language. Don't appear to be ready to start a boxing match. Don't cross your legs, arms or clench fists. Stand in a relaxed position and give each other your personal space. Don't raise your hands or start pointing at each other.

Give each other time to state his opinion and think about what the other person is trying to tell you. Just like you want a chance to argue your point, he should have the chance to argue his. Don't assume he has nothing to say without giving him a chance to explain himself.

Focus on the present issue and don't bring any older or past troubles into the argument.

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