How to Resolve Roommate Conflicts

Many young individuals are thrust into college dorm rooms without knowing anything about their new roommate. Although, everyone tries to be friendly at first, conflicts can arise rather quickly. This article explains how to manage conflicts that can occur.

Solve them before them begin. Many issues can be headed off early, just be simple talking in advance. After you break the ice with your new roommate, go over the basic dorm rules. Usually there are dorm rules established long before you arrive. Go over them with your roommate to make sure you and him both understand them. Then question each other about likes and especially dislikes. Do not be afraid to confront your roommate, when conflicts arise. Many times, stress will build up unnecessarily.

Let them know your expectations. Minor things like music, television, quiet time, unwanted visitors, your stuff-my-stuff, security, room temperature, and personal space and privacy are all very important expectations to be discussed.

Cleaning and neatness responsibilities. Each should have their set of chores and responsibilities. When it comes moving items of weight, work together. Always jointly decide, where items will be placed.

Top Bunk, bottom bunk. I always hated bunk beds. However, when space is limited, you may not have a choice. The roommate that has to get up more in the middle of the night, should take the lower bed.

Always use the "I" statement. Anytime you have something that you don't like, always insert the word I. Example, "I can't concentrate with the radio on." Or, "I don't like your girlfriend lying on my pillow." This sends a clear message. You can always smile before or afterwards. You can even smooth it over by tone. But, the "I" sends the message.

Use staff and hall directors. There may com a time to call in a professional to handle an agenda item that neither of you can handle. They are usually trained at handling conflicts of all types. These individuals are usually used as a last resort. In most cases, their decision is final.

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roseanne09 said:

	... Excellent tips to resolving roommate conflicts. Thanks for sharing.
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